奥巴马的育儿经:停止在做的16件事

奥巴马让女儿停止在做的16件事

Life is short. It may feel like it takes for ever sometimes, but the reality is that you live, and a short time later, you die. It happens so quickly, many people don’t even realize they had a lifeuntil it’s already over.  

人生苦短。我们有时候有种错觉,觉得能活很久。但实际上,你的生命只是历史长河中非常短的一小段。人生转瞬即逝,所以应该倍加珍惜。很多人到临死前才意识到这一生已经结束。

 

 1. Stop Doubting Yourself(停止怀疑自己)

If you don’t believe in yourself, nobody will. Success starts in your mind, and if all you’re doing is putting yourself down and predicting failure, it’ll become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Instead of doubting yourself, think positively. Not only will you be happier and more successful, you’ll spread it to everyone around you.

如果你自己都不相信自己,那没人会相信你。成功开始于你的内心,如果你只是不断地看扁自己,觉得一定会失败,那么你的期望就回变成现实,你真的会失败。与其怀疑自己,不如积极一点。不仅会让自己更加开心和成功,你还能够感染到周围的人。

 

 

 2.Stop Being Negative(停止消极)

Now that you’re done doubting yourself, stop doubting others. You don’t like when people are critical of you, so stop being critical of others. Think about how you make other people feel – even if you have good intentions, people don’t like hearing negativity.

既不要怀疑自己,也不要怀疑别人。你不希望别人对你指指点点,就不要去挑剔别人。学会换位思考——没人喜欢别人否定自己,即使你是出于好意。

 

 

 3.Stop Procrastinating(不要拖延)

I don’t feel like procrastinating right now – I’ll do it tomorrow. When you procrastinate, you remain stagnant. Whatever you’re putting off doesn’t go away; resolve the problem, and move on. You’ll be much happier in the long run. 

我现在不想做,还是留到明天吧。明日复明日,明日何其多。无论你怎么拖延,你要做的事情还是得做。把问题解决了,才能继续前行。长此以往,你会更加快乐。

 

 

 4.Stop Being Mean(不要那么刻薄)

It’s completely possible to step on someone’s toes without meaning to – it happens all the time. There’s no need to pile on by purposefully doing mean things, so make a conscious effort to stop being mean. If someone wrongs you, let it go. There’s no need to seek vengeance unless that’s the type of person you want to be. 

我们常常无意中会伤害到别人,这个避免不了。但没必要去处心积虑做一些刻薄的事情,要有意识地让自己不要那么刻薄。如果有人做了对不起你的事,随他们去好了。没必要去报复,除非你也想成为那一类的人。

 

 5.Stop Eating Out(不要在外吃饭)

Eating out is the biggest waste of money. Every so often it’s nice to treat yourself, but eating out for every meal is the quickest way to drain your bank account. Learn how to cook at least a handful of foods you enjoy: It’ll save you money, keep you healthier, and occasionally impress people. 

 
外出吃饭很费钱(经常在外面吃饭的攻略君看到这里吓一大跳)。也许每次对于你而言都是一次犒赏,但这也是花光积蓄的最快方式。可以去学学怎么烹调自己喜欢的食物:既能省钱,还能让你更健康,偶尔还会让其他人眼前一亮。

 

 

 6.Stop Being Lazy(不要再偷懒)

Lazy people are annoying – it’s like pulling teeth getting them to do anything. If I can’t do something as simple as going to a movie with you without having to factor in an hour of convincing you to get your lazy butt out of bed, I’d rather go alone. People have enough trouble motivating themselves; don’t make your friends and family waste their valuable energy motivating you as well. 

懒人真的很招人烦——让他们做点事比登天还难。如果我想跟你看一场电影,却不得不花一个小时说服你起床,那我宁愿一个人去看。给自己动力都不是件容易的事情,就别让朋友和家人浪费宝贵的精力再来给你动力了吧。

 

 

 7.Stop Complaining(停止抱怨)

We all have problems, and sometimes we need to vent to someone. That’s acceptable, but pay attention to how often you’re venting. We all love helping our friends and family, but when all you get from someone is negativity, it’s easier to cut them off than help, especially if they’re always complaining about the same things.

我们都有麻烦事,有时候总想跟别人倾诉。这可以理解,但要注意你吐槽的频率。我们都喜欢帮助朋友和家人,但如果从那个人身上我只能感知到负能量,那么还是离得越远越好吧,尤其是当他们在反复抱怨同一件事的时候。

 

 

 8.Stop Being Selfish(别再那么自私)

If you only think about yourself, you’ll soon find yourself by yourself. Stop for a minute and think about how your actions affect other people – did you take the last cup of coffee from the break room? Refill it! Do you live with others? Don’t drink out the milk carton. We share this world 100% of the time, so every action you take can affect other people.

一个以自我为中心的人,很快就会发现身边只剩下自己。停一分钟想想你的行为会给别人带来什么影响吧——如果喝完了休息室的最后一杯咖啡,请重新倒满;如何你是不是和别人一起住,不要喝光所有的牛奶。我们每一分钟都在分享这个世界,你所做的每件事都会影响到别人。

 

 9.Stop Wasting Time(别再浪费时间)

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: time is the most valuable resource we have. Don’t waste your time on unproductive things. If you want to explore the world’s dark corners, that’s great. I still associate with people who have not-so-kosher careers, but I don’t hang out with those people at the expense of my own short- and long-term goals.

虽然之前说过了,但我还想再说一遍:时间是我们拥有的最宝贵的资源,不要把时间浪费在没有意义的事情上面,如果你想探索这个世界的黑暗角落,那很好。我也认识一些没有固定工作的自由职业者,但我不会以牺牲自己的短期和长期目标为代价和他们出去玩。

 

 10.Stop Making Promises(别再做承诺)

Always under-promise and over-deliver. When you make a promise, you’re adding responsibility to your plate that, despite all your best intentions, you may not be able to deliver on. More often than not, your promise is an absolute (i.e “I promise I’ll always love you”), and only Sith deal in absolutes. Instead of making a promise with your words, simply be there when people need you, and exceed their expectations with your actions. 

总是做承诺,总是做不到。每次做承诺都不禁给自己增添了责任,无论你的出发点有多好,你都不可能完成所有的事情。大部分时候,你的承诺都太过绝对 (比如“我发誓我永远爱你”),也只能在绝对条件下才能实现。与其用语言许下承诺,不如在别人需要你的时候出现,然后用行动达到他们的期望吧。

 

 11.Stop Being a Pushover(不要做老好人)

We live in a capitalistic society in which everyone’s trying to sell us something. Everyone’s looking out for themselves in one way or another, and you need to do the same. Stop putting yourself out because you’re too shy to say no.

我们所处的社会,每个人都试图向我们推销什么。每个人都从不同的角度去找寻着自己,你也需要这样做,你要做的就是在合适的时候说不,以免把自己放入很尴尬的境地。

 

 12.Stop Listening to Haters(不要听愤青的话)

No matter what you want to do in life, there’s always someone around to tell you why it can’t and won’t work. I can come up with millions of reasons Twitter won’t work, and yet it’s one of the most popular social media sites on the web. My opinion didn’t stop Twitter’s success any more than it convinced Kobe Bryant to quit the NBA or Josh Hartnett to stop acting. Why would you let someone’s opinion stop you?

无论你想干什么,总会有人告诉你不要这么做,没有用的。我可以想出成百万条推特不实用的理由,但它还是目前最流行的社交网站之一。我的想法不会阻止推特的成功,就像你无法劝科比退出NBA或乔什·哈奈特不要当演员了一样。为什么要让别人的想法阻碍你呢?

 

 13.Stop Being Wasteful(停止浪费)

You don’t finish your meals, and away food instead. You leave the faucet running when you brush your teeth, pouring precious water down the drain. You drive places you could easily walk, burning gasoline (a non-renewable resource)。 You are wasteful, and it needs to stop.

你还没把饭吃完,就把食物扔掉;在刷牙的时候开着水龙头,让宝贵的水哗哗的流走;明明可以走到的地方你偏要开车,浪费汽油(不可再生资源)。如果你习惯浪费,从现在开始改变。

 

 14.Stop Littering(不要乱扔垃圾)

The only thing I hate more than wasteful people are litterbugs. Litterbugs are my least favorite bug, and there are more than you’d think. If you’ve ever thrown even one piece of gum, paper, candy wrapper, cigarette butt, etc on the ground, you’re a disgusting litterbug, and you should be ashamed of yourself. There are over 7 billion people in the world – if each person only throws one “innocent” piece of garbage on the ground, that’s 7 billion pieces of garbage littering a world in which nobody “did it”。

唯一让我觉得比浪费更可耻的是乱扔垃圾。我最讨厌这种人,而且这种人永远多的让你数不清。如果你曾扔过一块口香糖、一张纸、糖果包装、烟蒂,你应该感到耻辱。世界上有超过70亿的人——如果每个人都无意识的扔一点垃圾,那么全世界会变成有70亿件垃圾的垃圾场,还没人承认是自己的错。

 

Your one decision makes a HUGE difference, and I will not allow you to blow it off and walk around with your head held high. You’re a litterbug, and it needs to stop immediately. You don’t get a lifehack for this one, you filthy animal. Just stop – you already know how.

你的一个决定会带来很大的改变,我不赞成你去大街上高声疾呼。你需要从改变自己开始,不乱扔垃圾。这也许不能拯救世界,但却能让你不那么惹人厌。停止这一举动吧,至于怎么做,你懂的。

 

 15.Stop Taking Everything Personally(别太敏感)

People get offended about the strangest things. Take Kendrick Lamar’s now-infamous verse on “Control” this summer: he called out a list of a dozen rappers he thinks he’s better than (and he’s right)。 The internet went crazy, and rappers all over the industry rushed to their mics to record a response. The thing is, all K-Dot said is he’s the best rapper. Everyone took it personally, and that’s exactly what he was going for. The lesson to learn from this is that not everything is about you, and if you’re easily upset, someone will use that to their advantage.

人有时候会因为一些奇怪的原因觉得自己吃了亏。举个例子,有个歌手扬言自己最牛而招致其他歌手围攻,结果恰恰达到了炒红自己的目的。因为每个人都觉得自己最好,接受不了别人最好。我们要从中学习的是,世界不会围着你转,如果你太敏感,反而容易被人利用。

 

 16.Stop Talking(少说多听)

Sometimes it’s best to just STFU – especially in relationships. I can’t even count how many times I created an issue that didn’t need to be an issue simply because I opened my mouth. Even if what you want to say is important, just shut up and ride it out. You can say more with your ac tions than words.

有时候沉默是金——特别在亲密关系里。我都记不清到底多少次因为说错话引发了本可以避免的争端(攻略君的话:男士们请注意,乱说话会惹老婆生气,总统也不例外)。即使你想说的非常重要,那也请闭嘴,自行消化。你可以用行动证明一切,毕竟你自己说话的时候是无法聆听的。

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